It’s funny when you consider the definition of what we consider a treat for ourselves. I was reminded of this when reviewing a patient’s nutrition. He reports being a chocoholic. The patient presented the ‘image’ of health, looking fit, trim, healthy and vibrant. But haven’t we all read stories of supposed healthy people having heart attacks, strokes and the like? So I asked the patient if he would consider any compromise, and he replied no.
He continued with a story of how he grew up very poor, worked his way up the ladder and was now quite proud of all that he had achieved. And because he had worked so hard all of his life and was living the dream, he felt that picture included being able to eat as much chocolate as he liked as his reward. I think that while telling me his story, there was a part of him that decided he might be ready to change it. Sometimes verbalizing your belief will help you see it more clearly. Time will tell….
Here are some ways that we excuse treats:
- We attach the label ‘treat’ to items that we may have addictions to, to make it ok.
- Calling it a ‘treat’ makes it ok because we all ‘deserve’ treats sometimes.
- We tell ourselves that everything in moderation is ok. I could list 50 things right now that are not ok in moderation. We also would have to then ask what is moderation? Some things in moderation will make you very sick or cause harm whether you feel it or not.
- If you have to come up with a rationalization, it’s probably not in your best interest.
- Consider just how often those treats are sneaking up on you and what is the risk associated with it.
Consider new criteria for treats:
- Is there any nutritional value to it?
- Is it something that you love?
- Perhaps it’s something that is not available or in season all of the time.
- Will it enhance your health or take away from it?
- Make it something that is inarguably good for you so that it doesn’t carry the energy of guilt tainting it.
- Treats don’t always have to be food. Consider good music, a walk, a game, sports, time in nature/sun, a break from work, a good book, ….
Somewhere along the way, we started defining treat as something sinful, wicked, evil, naughty, indulgent, and something owed to us. Don’t those definitions carry a little negative energy with them? It’s a bit twisted when you consider that you are so happy, excited and deserving that you will shower yourself with something not so good for yourself. Instead, if a treat is healthy, exciting, happy, beautiful and clean, it can make every cell of your being sing for joy. I think it represents self love much better. Wrestle with that a while and see how it sits with you. What do you think of it all?










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